Those closest to you!

Often we overlook those who are closest to us. Your spouse, children, siblings, parents.

In 2007 my husband had a massive heart attack, before this we basically had a good marriage of 25 years. It was very routine, nothing special, very complacent. Since that time we have taken to doing date nights. Building memories, instead of 'I wish we had.....s'. In observing the disasters all around us, we are praying not only for relief, safety, and that they are able to find their loved ones; but also that they have no regrets that add to their burden.

Sure relationships don't always come easy, in fact a good marriage is often very hard, but rewarding work. Yup, just like a job...it takes effort, initiative, teamwork, & often times, stepping back to let the other shine. Encouragement & compassion are also key parts. There have been many occasions when I did not LIKE my hubby, still loved him; but definitely did not like him. I know that he has also felt this way about me; but these are those times when we grew stronger in our determination to succeed & not just give up. Saying I had enough! I won't say that there are not times in a marriage where this is the step that needs to be taken, just not in ours. We worked through some really tough, & touchy times. That is something that each has to work out for themselves; but we have way to much invested to cash it in now.

One of our changes has been dating. We try to take in a movie or some other outing at least once a month. There are free 'concerts in the park', zoos, museums, any number of items. When going on a long drive, we pack a picnic lunch instead of a restaurant. At least twice a year there are fancier mystery dates. One I arrange, the other he does. These involve doing something the other is especially fond of, even though it may not be my/or his fave.

He arranged for a dinner/play for me. He even put a suit on, wow that was different. He reserved the table right at the stage, it was fabulous. I surprised him with a trip to the race track. I take my knitting, it goes everywhere & enjoy the expression on his face (no I did not take it to the play, though it does go to the movies). He thinks it odd if my knitting is not out, though some places it is just not the right thing.

My point here, is we need to also make a difference at home. Call your sister/brother...go to lunch. Take your child out, show them how a date should act, show them they are so special. Take your mom/dad for dinner & to a favorite place. Make a difference at home, & that difference will spread out & show others how they to can build memories, not 'I wish we had....s'

Praying for all whose lives have been changed by so much devastating weather...
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